So you’ve made it to the date phase with your person of interest. Now what? Whether it’s been a while, or you’ve had some difficulty dating in the past, you may be nervous and unsure of what to do. Fear not. From the pre-date prep to the good night kiss (maybe), we’ve got you.
Read on for 11 of the most important dating tips for men.
The 11 Most Important Dating Tips For Men
1. Proper Preparation Is Key
It may sound like a given, but it needs to be said. First impressions are important. Often, it’s the little things that people notice. Dressing to impress is a given, but make sure you’re coordinated. Nothing ensures a date running for the hills more than a man wearing white socks and black shoes! Also, make sure any facial hair is tightened up, finger nails are in check, and your ears are clean.
2. Cologne
While it’s nice to smell nice, most people would rather smell nothing than spend 3-4 hours with a human car freshener. Go easy on the fragrance and make sure it’s one you’ve used before so you know how it reacts with your body chemistry.
3. Turn Off The Phone
Unless it’s absolutely necessary for work or a possible family emergency (in which case explain to your date), keep your phone on silent and in your pocket. There’s nothing more suspect and annoying than a guy who is always looking at his phone. Also, never, ever have your phone flipped upside down on the table.
4. Compliment Your Date
Your date took the time to look nice for you. Don’t be afraid to let them know you’ve noticed. It doesn’t need to be anything too deep, especially on a first date. A simple “that blouse looks great on you” or “those earrings are beautiful” is a great start.
5. Be Honest
Honesty in everything is always the best policy. Don’t exaggerate or inflate your accomplishments. You want your date to like you for you. You also don’t want any fibs to come back to haunt you later on.
6. Keep Your Ex(es) Out Of It
Dont blather on about how your ex did you wrong and how awful they are. Even worse, don’t say anything that may give the impression that you miss them! Nobody wants to play second fiddle, and it could also make you look petty and bitter.
7. Meet In Public
This is important on the first few dates to ensure mutual safety. However, by suggesting it, it will reinforce to your date that their safety and comfort is important to you.
8. Ask A Lot Of Questions
Without prying too deep, asking questions is a great way to break the ice, avoid awkward silence, and show your date you’re interested. Questions like “what’s the best part of your job” or “what’s your favorite hobby”, are great give and take questions. Just make sure to listen to the answers.
9. Don’t Push Your Point Of View
There’s an old adage for the dinner table, “no religion, no politics”. This should go for all initial dates as well. There’s no need to know every single position on every single topic someone holds, when you don’t even know if they have a cat.
10. Resurrect Chivalry
It can be confusing for men in this day and age to know what to do, or not to do, when on a date. You need to be respectful yet thoughtful, attentive without appearing desperate, acknowledge equality yet take control if needed.
It can be a tough balancing act, especially if you don’t know your date that well. The bottom line is, most people enjoy being treated like they are special and important. So, never be afraid of behaving like a gentleman. Chivalry has fallen by the wayside in recent years. Let’s bring it back with some of these acts:
- keep your language clean
- open doors
- make eye contact
- take off your hat
- let your date go first
- walk closest to the road
- stand up when they leave the room
- offer your jacket if they seem cold
- ask them if they need another drink, then order it
These are just a few basics. For more information on this list art check here.
11. The Goodnight Kiss?
Fewer things in life can be more awkward than the first goodnight kiss. Should you or shouldn’t you? In some cases, you’ll know for sure. It’s either been a disaster and you both want to escape, or you’re both totally enamored and can’t wait to lock lips. But sometimes it’s not that simple.
You would like to kiss them and think they want to kiss you, so what to do? This is where you have to examine your individual situation and decide for yourself. If you decide to go for it, a peck on the cheek or forehead is a good way to test the waters.
Steve Anderson, founder of Fuck buddy, is committed to guiding his readers through the ups and downs of finding and leaving love. As an author and expert in the field of dating she aspires to create content that is tailor-made for the modern dating world.
Growing up, Steve observed his parents’ grow in love and commitment with every year they were married. But, following a series of tough break-ups, Steve discovered that finding true love wasn’t as easy as he had thought. he then decided to pursue a career as a dating coach. Through his educational and life experience he learned that each situation requires a personalized approach, dependent on the values and desires of each of his clients. Since then he has become a sought-after expert on the nature of the dating game and how to win at it!
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