When was the last time that you felt sexually liberated? Gone are the days where sex was caged. Nevertheless, sex is a conversation that is highly misunderstood. It will take some time before society fully embraces the diversity of sexual preference.
But why be curtailed by someone’s primitive thoughts about your sex life? Embracing who you are and having a partner who is not romantically linked to you but sexually does is a start. I will therefore teach you how to enjoy your sex life without having to get mandatory roses every evening after work or having it be measured like a drug on the street.
#1: Know who you are
It must seem crazy what I’m about to say but fulfillment doesn’t necessarily have to come from someone else. Don’t stay in that abusive relationship simply because you fear feeling alone. Don’t fight for that relationship which is already dead. Be your number one fun and enjoy the freedom that comes along with being alone. Explore your body. It’s time to know what really turns you on. What makes your toes curl into unimaginable human shapes. Discover new spots on your body that are extra sensitive to touch and to think of.
It’s time to unleash the freak in you. Let go of all inhibitions and restrictions. Stop thinking of other people for once and think of that one or multiple things that make you happy.
#2: Where are they?
Friends with benefits can be found anywhere only if you’re keen. From your circle of friends to the local nightclubs.
Not to worry if you’re not a frequent member of these social gatherings. There have been evolutionary changes in how we socialize over the years. Nowadays, there are social media platforms where you can join and meet new people. The good thing about the platforms is that you have wide coverage of choice.
They can be anywhere though! You can spot someone that you’re physically attracted to in the mall or even in the gas station store. Just don’t come off like a creep or a weirdo. Be confident and not too aggressive; be very subtle and cool. Drop a smile a few minutes into the conversation and who knows, you might just walk out with that phone number.
#3:Have clear rules
The best thing about having a fuck buddy is the fact that there’s no emotional baggage and you can easily let your inner beast out. When considering who to be your passion giver, you have to ensure that they match your expectations. From the word go, the rules should be as clear as day. Find someone whose sexual aura and appetite levels yours to avoid any awkwardness and judgments. It wouldn’t be a bad idea to try something different as long as it’s a path you’re willing to walk on.
Since this is an arrangement without any romantic links, it can be called off the moment it gets too cozy for your liking, emotionally demanding, or even when a party decides to go against the rules.
#4:Let free
Don’t be afraid to rock the boat and make a mess. Why be quiet on what you want to be done to you yet you only live once? Don’t be shy to indulge in the other person’s desires and fantasies. It’s a two-way road!
Since it’s a new feeling and experience, take it slow. Don’t focus on knowing each other beyond comfort. Instead, central your thoughts on having a good time whenever together. Have a clear and open mind. Take that toy out, put on your gear, and dominate if that’s your thing. Crawl and be quiet as you await the instructions from your master if you are the submissive. Occasionally, you can go and enjoy coffee, lunch, or dinner just to create some physical bond.
#5: Get creative
It’s much easier to be freaky in a non-committed relationship. There’s no tension between you two since grandma didn’t argue with your partner or your best friend didn’t spill the beans on where you were last weekend. Out of the blue, send in some sneaky erotic text and create sexual tension between each other. Promise heaven on earth orgasms after work or the hectic family dinner that has been too tense. Don’t be limited to having your conversations on electronic devices only. Send a gift to your fuck buddy that has an underlying meaning which only they can decipher the promise of fulfillment when you two cross paths.
Just because the textbook says sex is done in the bedroom doesn’t mean it’s a national rule. Hey, some rules were made to be broken. Explore all the places you ever desired to have a romp in and make the moment worthwhile.
#6:Be careful
Above everything else, we are humans and bound to desire more than the initial bargain. The romp might be too good and the feeling of entitlement might creep in. It might be an affair and that would make everything complicated when feelings are involved. Put yourself first even in the arrangement. Have fun with other activities to continue knowing more about yourself.
Respect and communication are the major keys to having a successful relationship. Have an utmost understanding that you’re not the custodian of the other person regardless of sharing a few steamy sessions. Have time for yourself and don’t drown on the overdose of oxytocin. Be realistic and true to your current situation.
Having the freedom to your own life is the best form of expression man can ever experience. Just have an open mind that it might end as soon as it starts or can end in a different way. Be keen on who you allow in your personal space as it might be the reason you glow or become dull. For sure, sex is good but be smart and safe. Ensure you’re aware of each other’s health life to avoid contracting other things apart from orgasms.
Finally, take the experience by its balls and just have some fun.
Steve Anderson, founder of Fuck buddy, is committed to guiding his readers through the ups and downs of finding and leaving love. As an author and expert in the field of dating she aspires to create content that is tailor-made for the modern dating world.
Growing up, Steve observed his parents’ grow in love and commitment with every year they were married. But, following a series of tough break-ups, Steve discovered that finding true love wasn’t as easy as he had thought. he then decided to pursue a career as a dating coach. Through his educational and life experience he learned that each situation requires a personalized approach, dependent on the values and desires of each of his clients. Since then he has become a sought-after expert on the nature of the dating game and how to win at it!
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