Dating can be tricky at any age, but in the senior years, even more so. Recent widows can suddenly feel very alone and afraid now that they don’t have their lifetime partner to rely on. They have lost their personal safety net. Some of them think jumping back into the dating pool is the way to cure this loneliness that they feel. Not always so. It might cure some problems, but it can cause others, such as:
10. Beware of the old guy who thinks you are around for his constant companionship. If he is feeling lonely, too, he may try to monopolize much of your time, which is what you don’t want. You need to figure out how to spend time with him, but on your own terms.
9. Be friendly, but at a distance. Avoid the guys who seem to be a little too pushy. They may have the best of intentions, and they are feeling their own loss as a widower, but the safest way to play this game slowly, especially in the beginning of a new friendship. That’s all it is, not a love relationship, but a friendship. Don’t be tempted to think of it as more than that.
8. Keep your independence. It’s very nice that he has offered to pick you up at your place, but you are better off if you take your own car and meet him in a public place. This way, should things get uncomfortable for any reason, you can leave.
7. Don’t feel bound to be his friend. If you find this person isn’t really to your liking, be honest and let him know. It will be better for the both of you if you know where you stand.
6. Don’t engage in game playing or think you need to act coy. Just be honest but most of all, be yourself.
5. If you like the person, take it slow. Rushing into something will end up putting more pressure on you.
4. Don’t let him talk you into meeting his family too soon. There will be plenty of time for this later on. Again, don’t rush it.
3. Offer to bring food you prepared to a park for a picnic, rather than have him alone in your home for dinner. Remember you haven’t known this person for all that long and you need to stay safe.
2. Keep the sex at bay. Don’t get into a situation you are not comfortable with. If he is too demanding in that department, break it off.
1. Celebrate the relationship but cultivate it without rushing into it.
Steve Anderson, founder of Fuck buddy, is committed to guiding his readers through the ups and downs of finding and leaving love. As an author and expert in the field of dating she aspires to create content that is tailor-made for the modern dating world.
Growing up, Steve observed his parents’ grow in love and commitment with every year they were married. But, following a series of tough break-ups, Steve discovered that finding true love wasn’t as easy as he had thought. he then decided to pursue a career as a dating coach. Through his educational and life experience he learned that each situation requires a personalized approach, dependent on the values and desires of each of his clients. Since then he has become a sought-after expert on the nature of the dating game and how to win at it!
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